Curated Articles


While we have helpful articles as a main part of the site, sometimes we want to save the most useful or interesting articles in a place where they won’t get buried over time.

Feel free to give feedback and make suggestions. Also, while we all endeavor to select reputable and helpful resources, you are encouraged to use your own judgement. We are all learning and exploring here, and this is a personal path for each of us.


Gaslighting, by Shea Emma Fett – Explains what gaslighting is, and what you can do about it.

BYDLS-TheSpoonTheory, by Christine Miserandino – An analogy of what it is like to live with sickness or disability. Have you heard people talk about how they are out of spoons, or have limited spoons? If you are unsure what they are talking about, this will help.

Splines Theory: A Spoons Metaphor for Autism, by Luna Lindsey – Now let’s take the spoons analogy to the next level. Even if you are not autistic, you might relate to how much effort goes into just starting a task, and then finding a stopping point, and then changing over to a new task. The stopping, changing, and starting take their own energy!

The Narcissist’s Dilemma: They Can Dish It Out, But…, by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. – Explains what is often going on inside somebody with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and why they feel the need to devalue or attack others.

What is Coercive Control? – Defines coercive control and provide examples. This type of abuse is common and yet often misunderstood. “Coercive and controlling abuse impacts a survivor’s sense of safety, identity, autonomy and their attachments to others.”